Asshats Going For The Back Up Dancer

Note: some of my writings can be current or past experiences. Enjoy. Backup dancer is a common term I use to describe whomever as the back up girl.  Someone just left in the shadows and then all of the sudden is seen as an interesting commodity. This can be used even with friends. No one ever wants to be the back up dancer its fun when you have that small moment of spot light but the light always returns back to the leader of the dance routine. (Believe me I love to boogie and get down with my bad self (James Brown style)) Bootycalls gone wrong. Sure we all want to be with someone and fill that hole we are missing but I am fed up with the meaninglessness bullshit. I have had multiple guys say let’s just hangout and see where it goes. Netflix and cuddle. It’s all nonsense. They wonder why I don’t want to do that to myself? Sure I have that mentality going In. I want to get some have that hole filled but in the end you walk away with a more broken heart than before. I get a call a few weeks ago. “Hey!... how are you let’s get together and hangout I missed you! It’s been too long.” My response just blatantly “Why are you doing this? Why are you trying to get under my skin again. I saw you at the bar with your ex.” His response “ It’s over I want to see where we go”. I am a silly girl I get swoon over boys who just break me down and shatter me further. Where is he now? Oh you know throwing parties being an Asshat. Asshat’s are a continuous theme for me lately. The Netflix and chill Asshat’s seem to always creep into my life and I’m fed up. I’ve had enough. You’re an ass hole and you know who you are. Flip you for teasing me a third time. Three strikes and this time I’m out. “You’ve got to roll with the punches to get to what’s real”- Van Halen Please don’t call a girl because another girl finally called it quits with you. She figured out you are an Asshat forcing the new girl that you just called to figure it out even quicker and the harder way. Its the perfect equation for a disaster. It’s strange how so many people can just use a single person just because they know they are vulnerable and available for the taking. Maybe, I should be stronger but clearly this is all a learning experience giving me an opportunity to play smarter. Somethings can be so clear and obvious that it is not in your favor and yet we still do these actions for “research”. RULE #1 if you take anything from my thoughts. Don't be a back up dancer its not fun and in the end you just wonder why you can't be the lead dancer in all that glitter. RULE #2 buy glitter as soon as possible its too much fun and if you follow me on the Instagram you'll understand what I mean. Check back in for RULE #3 I'm still working on it. I've had the weirdest uncomfortable week of my life and it is only Wednesday so keep me in your thoughts I'm going to need it.